Relief from migraine pain

Hi all,

I am currently completing a Diploma of Clinical Hypnosis and Strategic Psychotherapy, and have no experience in a clinical setting but lots of ideas and enthusiasm for the power of hypnotherapy. I recently had the pleasure of seeing Rob present a demonstration of Ericksonian Hypnotherapy at the AHA conference, and it was so inspiring I signed up here.

One of the unexpected benefits I’ve discovered while studying hypnotherapy is a noticeable reduction in the number of headaches I get. I used to take headache tablets two to three times each week without thinking, and it was just something “I did” that was part of life, not something I’d even noticed might be unusual.

Now, I notice how rarely I need to actually take headache tablets. It’s become so rare that, when I went to take some recently for a head cold, I momentarily paused and realised I couldn’t remember the last time I’d taken any.

This has been a really positive change in my life. So I wondered if I might be able to help facilitate a similarly positive change in the life of a friend of mine who regularly suffers from migraines.

This person has had migraines most of their adult life, and gets the “take these hospital-strength painkillers and go lie down for a couple of days” type of migraines.

When I was thinking through how I might approach this in a session, I realised that the four-step method I recently saw demonstrated by Rob probably wasn’t appropriate for pain relief. I mean, I can ask them what they like to do, and what they like about doing that, but I can’t really say “and how is having a migraine like the thing you like doing” ....

So I’m wondering if anyone can give me some guidance on how to approach the treatment of migraines, or relief from pain in general.

Thanks in advance,

Malcolm.

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Rob McNeilly
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Hi Malcolm

Thanks for your kind words about the conference.

About your friend, asking “and how is having a migraine like the thing you like doing” wouldn't be helpful, but the step is how the "likes" can be connected to the solution ... NOT THE PROBLEM ... so it might be something like “and how is having a comfortable head [or whatever the solution that your friend comes up with] like the thing you like doing”.

We can safely assume that whatever is present in the "likes" will be missing in the problem.

If you listen to your friend to discover details about their "likes", what's missing ... the rest falls into place ... usually. :-)

Let's know what happens, and be willing to be surprised.

Rob

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Thanks Rob. I think I get it.

So maybe something like:
* How is having a migraine a problem for you?
* How come you want to change <first question response>?
* How is the thing you like doing, like the <answer to second question>?

I guess I need to get past my mental block of asking the first question openly, given I already know the migraines cause them problems, and trust they won't take offense at me asking that question.

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Rob McNeilly
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Your reluctance is solid, Malcolm, and to avoid offence, we can lead up to the question ... I know that the migraine is a problem to you, and to help me to know how best to help you, could you tell me how it is a problem in particular? What is it about the migraine that is specially troublesome to you. I can guess how a migraine would be a problem to me, but ia can't know about your experience, so could you help to clarify this for me? Do you get the drift? We want to respect the suffering, and ask about personal, individual aspects.

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Ah, now I think I get it. I must unlearn what I have learned and approach the situation without any preconceived ideas. 

Thanks, this is great advice Rob. I look forward to using it with my friend!

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Rob McNeilly
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Have some fun with tis, and be willing to be surprised.

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Thank you Malcolm for putting in this question, and thank you Rob for aswering (and especially for the kind, compassionate way of relating to everyone on this forum - that touches me deeply)! Can you please explain me a bit again the 4-step method shown at the conference? Thank you!

Stijn

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Rob McNeilly
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Thanks Stijn.

It's just a format to play with and vary from. Here's a link to a small eBook outlining the steps. https://us.simplerousercontent.net/uploads/asset/file/2877839/easy-guide.pdf 

Rob

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Thank you Malcolm for your sharing your query and Rob. I, like Stijn, really resonate with your response.  I work a lot with somatic approaches and have learned the value of simply allowing the client to feel the concerns or symptoms rather than diving in to fix.  I want to encourage them in a way that we both begin to believe that support in feeling or exploring it need not dominate their body and mind.  I am grateful, still, for the reminder of the "likes".

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Rob McNeilly
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Thank you Carol. Some people say that the way out of the woods is through the woods, and ... sometimes it can be ... don't go into the woods. Whatever works is a more useful mantra than pushing any theory, including "likes". Let's be as flexible as possible so we can lessen suffering.

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I had an experince with a client who had  an old injury in her left arm. It was somewhat painful for her. But she likes to dance ballet as a hobby. When she could connect her like to this arm problem  she realised the resources she has and her arm got better.   Her arm came lighter ..But it can also happen that it is not the right time to come better but it also might be.

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Rob McNeilly
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It might not be the right time but it also might be ... with way, she has experienced the possibility!!! And that's where the magic is.

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Caught up with my friend yesterday for our first session. Didn't actually get to Migraines, as they came prepared with a long list of things they'd like to be "treated for".

Started off using a fovial trance to treat fear of needles. They reported that the words I said didn't make sense (I was using the script supplied during my course), but they suddenly understood how they needed to think about needles and the benefits that could come from them (like actually getting a flu shot).

Then I tried Rob's approach to help them with "pre-interview stress", and they managed to make a connection between Photography (the like) and what they especially liked about photography - the challenge - and how they could use this next time they approached a job interview. This was pretty rewarding for both of us as I just asked them to wonder if there was something about the challenge of photography they could use to help them in that situation, and they made the connection themself.

Thanks again for your guidance Rob, I'm looking forward to seeing if I can make some progress with their migraines at a future session.

Cheers,

Malcolm.

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Rob McNeilly
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I've notice3d that scripts require additional translation by a client so they can connect with what is offered. If we styart with likes, no translatioon is needed because the experience comes from within themselves.

How lovely that they could start to make their own connections!!!

Sharp, and to the point, Malcolm. :-)

Next - migraines ... photography again??

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